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She’s the bestest ever!

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Our little bean is 2 weeks old. What’s happened in the past 2 weeks? She’s gained 1lb 3oz and weighs in at 7lbs 9oz now. She loves to eat and sleep and poop. She’s starting to fill out the newborn clothes – we probably have another week or so in newborn clothes before she’ll start being able to wear 0-3 month sized clothing. Her head seems to have changed shape, her skin is slightly blotchy, she’s lost half her hair, she’s cultivating a second chin and her little belly has filled out – I don’t need to double over the edge of the diaper so that it’ll be snug anymore.

Compare this picture with the one taken on day 1!

Mrs Bean’s parents and siblings came into town to visit, so the bean got to meet her grandparents, aunts and uncle. She also got to ride in the car seat everyday, which she really dislikes. She still loves making faces and has strong opinions on food. For example, when presented with some Thanksgiving options for baby (not that she’s ready for them, but they happened to be in the cupboard at the rental property), she had this to say:

We still spend hours gazing at her, and are thankful and amazed that she is in our lives.


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November 29, 2009 at 1:50 pm

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Birth Story

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Up until November 13
Mrs Bean had been experiencing contractions every 5-10 minutes for the past week or so. Unfortunately, they’d come in the evening, then go away by morning. At first we hoped for our due date (November 4), then the weekend after the due date, then we started joking about how the baby might come on Friday the 13th…

November 13
8:30am We went to the doctor’s office to get an ultrasound – our midwife requires an ultrasound at 41.5 weeks, to make sure things are okay, and to see how much longer the baby can stay in. The level of amniotic fluid turned out to be, or seem, too low. I write ‘seem’ here because that office’s readings have been off for others. They also weren’t able to hear the baby’s heartbeat all that well, so they hooked Mrs Bean up to a monitor, and listened to the baby’s heartbeat and measured the tenseness of her uterus for about 20 minutes. The baby’s heart was fine, but they said that Mrs Bean’s uterus was ‘irritable’ – during a contraction it was at 100%, and right after, it went down to 2%, but at rest, it was at 30%.
Based on these readings, the doctor advised that the baby needed to come out within the next 24 hours, which sort of freaked us out…we didn’t want to end up in the hospital!

10:00am After we got home, we talked to the midwife (who was actually down the street at the hospital with another client) who got us started on some homeopathic drops and the breastpump – 15 minutes each hour.

11:00am The midwife and her apprentice dropped by. Our midwife stripped Mrs Bean’s membranes (where she used her finger to sweep the amniotic sac free from the uterus near the cervix, which was 1.5cm dilated). She left to go back to the hospital, but her apprentice stayed with us, and helped administer herbs and homeopathic remedies every 15 minutes. We continued with the pump, and we went on a brisk walk (with squats, but not for me, just for Mrs Bean) every hour for about 15 minutes.

I cleared the living room, put down a plastic sheet, got the tub out and inflated it. Then, I took a short trip to the grocery store for castor oil…

12:30pm Castor oil has been consumed! Let the exodus begin! 🙂

3:00pm Our midwife returns. She tells us that the doctor on call at the hospital is only on duty until 7am, at which point a caesarean-happy doctor comes on. So – if we ended up at the hospital, we’d need to get there early enough to be able to deliver by 7am. If we wait, and are having problems at home, we’d end up at the hospital, most likely with a C-section.

So…we talk about having the midwife break Mrs Bean’s waters. She doesn’t generally do this, hasn’t done it since she was an apprentice herself. She’s worried about a cord prolapse, but waiting and not delivering would result in a trip to the hospital anyway, so we go for it. At this point, Mrs Bean is 3cm dilated.

Her waters are clear, but there wasn’t all that much of it – I’d read stories about fluid spewing out, or creating large puddles. There was about 2-3 cups of fluid…I think. It was hard to tell, since I was excited, and also since everything ended up absorbed in the chux pad.

We continued using the breast pump, the herbs/homeopathic stuff got adjusted, and we kept taking walks. We did get some funny looks from drivers whenever Mrs Bean would have a contraction and I’d hold her up. She also got funny looks whenever she did squats along the road.

5:30pm At some point, a friend of ours dropped by with food for everybody. I think it was around 5:30. She’s sort of squeamish, so she didn’t cross the threshold. It was around this time that we stopped walking outside, and Mrs Bean walked around the house, and up and down the stairs. Her contractions also got much stronger, and were about every 2 minutes apart with a short break in between, and she started moaning during each contraction. After some moaning, she mumbled something along the lines of wondering why she ever thought she’d care that people would hear her moan.

7:15pm? I noticed the midwives filling the pool. I didn’t mention it to Mrs Bean. I also noticed that our midwife had changed her clothes, into scrubs and a t-shirt. We continued to hang out on the stairs – we’re the same height, so when she’d have a contraction, she get up on one stair, and lean down onto my shoulders.

8:00pm? After taking a shower, Mrs Bean wandered into the living room, and looked longingly at the tub. She asked if she could get into the tub…why, of course! Getting into the tub was a big relief for her, and that’s when all hell broke loose.

When the midwife checked her, she was 8cm! Mrs Bean had strong strong contractions for awhile while I sat by her head. The midwives also chucked homeopathic pellets into her mouth. I think they were for helping with the feeling of overwhelmed-ness, but I don’t remember.

At some point, the midwife said “I can see the baby’s head”, which is when I climbed into the tub. At about this point, the second midwife came in through the front door and took a seat right next to Mrs Bean’s head. What great timing, eh?

When I first got into the pool, I could see something waving in the water from Mrs Bean’s vagina. I thought at first it was some sort of mucous or tissue, but no – it was the bean’s hair! This is when Mrs Bean started yelling in pain, things along the lines of “Get it out of me!!!”. With each push, the head would peek a little further, two steps forward, one step back. At one point, the baby’s head almost crowned, and Mrs Bean said “I don’t want it to go back in”, and our midwife said “It’s not going back in”…what was really happening was that the baby’s head did go all the way back in. But on the next push, the head crowned, Mrs Bean screamed, and our midwife supported the head with her fingers at the front and back of the vagina.

The head was out! The bean’s head was upside down (of course) and her eyes were closed, but she looked calm. One more moment, and then her whole body was in my hands, I don’t even remember how long it took, or what it looked like. I passed her up to Mrs Bean, who held her close. After a few moments, after the midwives had toweled the Bean down a bit, Mrs Bean said “Let’s find out if it’s a boy or a girl”, and we checked between her legs. “Aw, she’s a girl. I really wanted a girl.”

While we all looked at her, Kai just sat there and looked at us. Blinking calmly. Then she cried, and we decided to get Mrs Bean and the baby to bed. The thing that nobody told us about is the rush after giving birth can make a woman shaky – Mrs Bean thought she was going into shock, but the midwives assured her that what she was feeling was normal.

And there you go. That’s our birth story.

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November 22, 2009 at 11:49 pm

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A bunch of faces

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When she’s resting, she’ll run through a (random) sequence of facial expressions. It’s so cute to watch!

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November 21, 2009 at 12:12 pm

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The first few days

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What we’ve learned so far about Kai (our little baby Bean…I think it’ll be easier to refer to her as such, but for the sake of privacy, I want to note that this isn’t her actual first name):

  • She loves to nurse. She nursed for 5 hours one night!
  • She likes to chirp and gurgle in her sleep. This may mean that she’s having great dreams! She’ll also push her arms out, like she’s flying like Superman.
  • She loves to windmill her arms.
  • She loves looking around – her neck is strong!
  • Changing her diaper right after she pees/poops is way easier than changing it once she’s noticed that something has happened. She’s not happy with dirty diapers.

Here’s a picture of Kai being weighed by the midwife yesterday – as you can see, she hated it. She weighed 6lbs 2oz, so she lost 4 oz. Mrs Bean’s milk has come in, and Kai is done with pooping out the meconium, so I think she’ll be getting bigger and heavier soon.

And here’s a picture of me holding her.  She’s in a half-asleep dream state.

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November 17, 2009 at 7:08 pm

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The Bean is Here!!!

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Our little bean arrived last night, at 9:59pm, she was 6lb 6oz and 19.25″ in length after 41 weeks and 2 days of gestation.

As I’m writing this, she is 1 hour away from being a whole day old. Wow. We are so lucky to have her, and she is beautiful, and funny – she sometimes snorts like a little piglet when she’s nursing, and the cutest little peeps and squeaks come from her every now and then.

We’re still trying to figure out the diaper thing…she has such skinny legs that it’s hard to get the diaper on tight. More details later, for now, a picture. (I’ll set up a protected flickr album at some point soon, so add me as a friend on flickr if you’d like to be able to see the pictures, or email me if you want a guest pass link.)

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November 14, 2009 at 10:04 pm

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Bye bye mucous plug!

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Our midwife swung by today, and checked on Mrs Bean and baby bean. The baby is +1 in station (getting low!) and in the perfect position. Mrs Bean’s cervix is about 1.5cm dilated, however, a couple hours after our appointment, her mucous plug fell out! woohoo!

Mrs Bean is feeling miserable, and would really like for the baby to come out. If there weren’t two other mothers about to give birth in the next 24-48 hours, I think we would’ve opted for a relatively strong natural induction procedure. As it is, she just started taking homeopathic ‘stuff’ to help the labour along.

Will we see you soon, little bean?

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November 12, 2009 at 4:44 pm

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41 weeks!

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Wow, we’re at 41 weeks now! Last night, Mrs Bean had contractions ~5 minutes apart for about 2 hours. At our midwife’s advice, she took a bath, and drank some wine and her uterus calmed down…this morning they were about 15 minutes apart (if I remember right).

She’s going on a walk this morning around the lake. Perhaps I’ll make the dish I was planning on cooking extra spicy. Throw in some nipple stimulation. Maybe an exciting, heart-pounding movie?

Our next appointment with the midwife is tomorrow, and we have an ultrasound scheduled for Friday. I’m still working, although most of my tasks are essentially done – I’m just taking my work around and getting feedback from people, and not committing to anything big.

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November 11, 2009 at 1:17 pm

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